Are you Ready? Ready to Experience Lasting Joy?

Completing the Circle with Geralyn St. Joseph

First let me explain that this is presented as a six week course. It takes time to set patterns in our lives. It takes hard work and a great deal of honesty to change them. First and foremost you MUST be honest with yourself. We tend to lie to ourselves more than to any other person.

To come to a place of self-empowerment first we must know the self. Since that entails a process, I will limit the talk to a general overview and focus on one aspect only.

To get to know yourself, first you have to listen. Listen to your self-talk. Not all those voices in your head belong to you. Once you can discern where they are coming from, you can develop your own voice. You may want to start a journal. This allows you to chart your progress in a concrete way as you see your thought patterns change.

Take note of your physical responses to different subjects and situations – What are you reactive to? This could mean anything from an anxiety attack to a deep sigh to a big smile. Why are you reactive to that particular stimulus? What memory, emotion or energy cord is attached?

Whether it is simple to figure these things out or not, we can begin the healing process by using a technique called pulling or cutting cords. Every person we deal with, every situation that affects us develops an energy cord to us. This can be draining or reciprocal. In pulling cords we stop the energy drain. 

Learn to meditate so that you can effectively tap into your higher self, and the source. Mediation will also help a great deal on the physical level – teaching your body to relax. Once you’ve mastered this – you can relax your body on demand – regardless of the situation. That in itself is a powerful tool.

Think about and define your Faith, values and desires. All this helps you know who you are. Knowing who you are gives you the freedom to change it and the freedom to connect with the source and with others without fear.

Most of the things I’ve mentioned are cognitive things. The focus of finding the self and cleaning it up, fixing it, is to discover Joy. I believe Joy is our reconnection to Spirit and the world around us.

To truly experience Joy on a regular and lasting basis we need to become responsible for whom we are. There are many ways to do that. The path we choose to follow is not the key thing, the responsibility is the key.

There was this Ventriloquist who was out of work. So he goes to his agent and asks him what he needs to do. The agent says that he’s really sorry but ventriloquists are out this year, but mediums are big. He tells the ventriloquist to hang a shingle out as a medium. So he does.

Within the hour a woman comes in and asks to speak with her dead husband, how much would that be? He points to the sign behind him. Which has 3 prices. He says for $25 you get to talk to your dead husband. For $50 he can talk back to you. And for $75 He can talk to you while I’m drinking a glass of water.

We insist on carrying old patterns into new situations. We need to remember that everything is a choice whether sub-conscious or conscious. The universe consistently creates that which we give our energy to. If we obsess about being fat, we will be fat. If we worry about lack, we manifest it. We need to remain awake to be aware of our thoughts. Our thoughts reflect our true intentions and remember the universe creates our true intentions in perfect form.

Einstein said that true insanity lies in repeating the same action, while expecting a different result.

Can you think of situations in which you do that? & then defend you actions! Fight for your limitations and they shall be yours. Excuses are the nails that build the houses of failure.

When people say it is all perfect, because we are all made in God’s image, everything is perfect. Whether they are aware or enlightened to the fact or not, they do not mean ‘true perfection’ as most of us relate to perfection, as in without flaw. They are referring to the universe creating our wishes or thoughts and sometimes even fears in perfect form. Which is a world away from saying that this world is perfect in a Garden of Eden kind of way.

With all this in mind, what then, do we need to create a better environment? To become healthy, wealthy and wise?

We not only need to change our behavior and outward appearances, we need to be aware and accountable for our thoughts. We need to listen to our self-talk and make sure it’s positive.

Blessings!

Completing the Circle - Path to Self-Empowerment

Let me help you find your way to a joy-filled life. 

REALize  your true self and reconnect to Spirit. 

Discover your Intuition. 

Learn how to stay balanced in any situation. 

Be the Best YOU! Are you ready?

Begins January 8, 2013 at 9pm ET - 6 weeks
Every session is recorded so if you miss it live, you have access to the replay.
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Excerpt from "Parenting Prime Directive"

Emotional Intelligence

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is a good sense of self. To be raised with the knowledge that it is okay, maybe even wonderful, that you are who you are. How powerful it is to realize that your imperfections can be your greatest strengths. Imperfection is what makes us unique and beautiful. How potent to know that one does not need to conform to contribute.

How many times have you heard the phrase, “She just needs to find herself”? Maybe you had to undertake this journey yourself. Where does this sense of being lost stem from? What does it mean? When we try to conform to what our parents, friends, society expects of us we fail to develop our own sense of self. 

We often encourage our children to conform to society with the excuse that we don’t want them to be hurt. The truth is, we don’t want to be seen as too different. We select a group and stick with them even when we don’t agree with some of their beliefs.  So often we teach our children, through our actions, not to form strong convictions, or at least, not to stand up for them. We fear ridicule. This is natural, however it’s not healthy. 

When we are confident in who we are, ridicule doesn’t affect us the same way. We may look at it as an indicator that the person is uncomfortable with themselves, as is usually the case. Or we may look at what is said to see if there is any validity to it. Maybe we went too far, or misunderstood something. Maybe we are misunderstood. 

Our children need to know that they have worth. They need to know that it is a gift to be in their presence. And that the presence of others is also a gift. I know, you’re all nervous about your child being too proud and full of themselves. A person becomes prideful to try and convince themselves and the people around them that they have worth. It stems from insecurity, not confidence. 

The first step in fostering a good sense of self in our young is to allow them to express their emotions and to help them identify what they are feeling. Before my daughter could even talk we began identifying what she was feeling. A baby has different cries. One of those is anger, another frustration and they coo when happy and so on. We learn their language to take care of them properly, now simply play it back to them. ‘Oh I see that you are frustrated. Mommy can’t pick you up right now baby, you need to wait. I’m sorry’ ‘My you are angry. There’s no need to be angry, let’s calm down now. Come on, breathe deep.’ 

            Whenever your child becomes upset, you can help them self soothe by instructing them to breathe deeply. Breathe with them, deeply and slowly. It may take a few moments, but they will match your breath. This lesson lasts a lifetime.

When you can identify what is happening in your own heart, it is much easier to identify it in others and become more empathetic, giving you a better handle on potentially volatile situations. Also, when you can identify your emotions, you can explore what you are reacting to.

Emotions are often layered. The more layers, the more work to reveal the actual trigger or hurt. When we react to someone or something in anger, it generally is a sign of a wound. Look beneath the anger and you will find fear and or pain. Anger is a defense mechanism. It protects us from the deeper emotions and can be useful in keeping us safe. If we react in anger when under attack, we will defend ourselves. This decreases the likelihood of being attacked again in the same way. But sometimes the anger is unwarranted and simply covering up an old wound we haven’t healed. In this circumstance we need to identify the wound and heal it, or at least acknowledge it.

As adults we most likely have lots of wounds covered by a ton of reactive emotion. If we don’t want our kids to be the same emotionally messy individuals, we need to teach them to take care of things as they appear, rather than bury them for later examination. This will leave them with the energy and courage to achieve their goals, hopefully.

If we want our children to talk to us and express how they really feel we need to become masters at the art of listening. It is painful to watch your child’s pain bubble up to the surface, but resist the urge to take it on as your own. Resist the temptation to try and fix it for them, and even to express your outrage at first. Your job is to simply listen and allow your child to delve into their emotions in safety; No judgment, no one telling them to stop crying, or that what they’re expressing is nonsense or unwarranted. Ask questions about what they are feeling [make sure you wait until they are ready] and eventually ask what they think the other people in the situation are feeling.

            The world becomes a different place when we acknowledge that everyone is fighting some kind of battle. Being able to pull back from a situation and relinquish any roles – whether bad guy, victim or hero – can bring a level of clarity and wholeness that is priceless. When this is practiced in daily living compassion is our touchstone and the world becomes much easier to navigate. We realize that nothing is truly personal. We are all just seeking attention, love and clarity. We accomplish this in compassion.

 

My father taught me that if you see injustice done and don’t act against it, you are just as guilty as the perpetrator. He instilled in us a great sense of morality; True, humane morality, not the kind that leads to war and intolerance. He taught us the kind of morality that defends the defenseless and protects the weak. I cannot stand by and watch a person being verbally abused, just as much as I cannot watch a dog being beaten. My parents instilled in us the strength and conviction to stand up for ourselves and others. 

I have heard the saying “no good deed goes unpunished”, that kind of sentiment is what destroys integrity. It gives excuse not to act, to be a part of the problem. Yes, there are consequences, but if it’s your child, brother, mother in trouble, what would you want others to do? Jesus said “Do unto others as you would have done unto you”. In other words treat people the way you want to be treated. How much strength we gather from another’s kindness! It is immeasurable. It can change a life, give hope. Let people know that there is goodness in the world. Isn’t that the world you want your children to grow up in?

Intuitive Parent Coach 

Geralyn St Joseph

Lancaster, PA 

serving parents and children worldwide

808 261-7866

SpiritualParents@gmail.com